True Love – As a love and relationship coach, I get the unique privilege of talking to women all day, every day about what they are looking for in love and WHY they think they haven’t found love.
Jacque, for example, is 35 and dying to get married. In her own words, she has been looking for love for years and, after not finding it, now fears she may miss her time to get married and have the baby she desperately longs to have.
However, after a call with me, we discovered FOUR KEY things she is not doing that 80% of all of my clients also struggle with…
1) Not actively dating: Many of the women I speak with long with all of their hearts desire to have an amazing love but are not actually dating. What do I mean by this? I mean, they are not on any online dating sites, they have profiles that don’t serve them, they have profiles up but rarely use them, or they are not engaging with men organically.
If you aren’t doing online dating, do you know where to meet the men who are compatible for you? If so, do you attend those places and become approachable in a MAN’S eyes? You can’t find love if you are not dating. How is a man supposed to find you if he doesn’t even know you exist?
2) They don’t like or trust men: They want love but are still really scarred by an experience in the past. A man or men deeply hurt them, so they have a block when trying to achieve a successful dating experience. Why? Because it comes across in their energy. High-quality men can tell from ten miles away if a woman doesn’t like or trust men, and it will completely deter him from approaching her or asking her out. He may not be able to name what’s going on with her, but he will walk away thinking something is off – that she is too guarded or that something just didn’t feel right.
A lot of women think they can just put themselves out into the dating scene without healing their distrust of men but you can’t. Do the work, it’s worth it! Have you ever been on a great date where you thought it was perfect and you never, ever heard from the guy again??? You may have just learned the reason.
3) You don’t believe you are worthy of love: Well, you are. But regardless of what I tell you, you won’t find love if you don’t believe you are worth it. Why? Because you will always reflect on the outside what you believe on the inside. If you believe you aren’t worthy of finding love, you are going to attract to yourself a bunch of experiences that validate that belief. Men who ghost you, men who can’t commit, men not showing up in any capacity PERIOD, and possibly even a barren wasteland.
So, what’s the good news? Well, the opposite is also true! Once you DO believe you are worthy of love, the men you attract commit, show up, cherish you and match your beliefs that you have on the inside. The Queen finds her King. ?
4) You don’t assume responsibility for accepting that men and women are different: I meet SO many lovely women who do the mindset work, put themselves out there, risk rejection and bring in a really great man. Awesome, right? But then they expect him to act like a woman, and they start taking over the dating process. They start texting him way too soon, calling him too much and initiating dates.
This only leads to the guy backing away, not moving the relationship forward anymore, and the woman getting heartbroken way too soon. There is nothing wrong with being an independent woman. You should have a voice, assert your wants and be your fabulous self. But statistically, it has been proven that men LOVE to court women, move the relationship forward and make you happy. How is that not a win-win?
It is officially summertime and time for LOVE!
Do you want to make this your last summer single? YES!
So, I have opened up five spots only on my calendar for the NEXT TWO DAYS to help you find where you are blocked!